No blog post on here has ever had as many hits as the one of Kenneth and Duncan’s wedding, partly of course because Kelvin linked to it on Inspires on-line. But then he has linked to other of my posts – and never with quite such a specular result.
And I have the feeling that at least some arriving there must have been a tad disappointed. Sure there was more I could have said. The excellence of the trio who played for the occasion might have been remarked on and the fact my little grandchildren, and especially Tabby, were utterly entranced by the live music, demanding ‘More! More! every time they paused. We had sun, and despite my misgivings the flowers I arranged for it were a stonking success with everybody.
And this is just ordinary too. This is the usual stuff of the exciting and unique days of weddings, when people dress up and are happy, and hug and shed happy tears. And, yes, worry over details gone wrong, and then decide they do not matter. And that is the point, really. Just special in the usual way.
Today I took my lap top to show the piccies to the very kind lady in her eighties for whom I clean. I complained that gay couples could not (as yet) actually claim the name of marriage or marry in church. She thought for a bit, and I told her about the vows Kenneth and Duncan had made. She suddenly saw that that was simply what gays wanted – to promise love and faithfulness. Just like everybody. Ordinary.
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I have to say, before I/we got married I did feel a little aggrieved that I could not officially call it marriage and that the State did not recognise it as such. But having now been through the whole process it I don’t feel that what I have experienced is any different to what my 3 sisters went through. Certainly the planning and organising of the event felt no different, neither did the ceremony compared to my sister who chose to have a civil one. I have gone the same emotions and there is a gold ring on my finger.
I am gaining by proxy celebrity? Do I need my own blog?
I would say – officially a D list celeb! ( 😉 ) – thanks to Kelvin linking once to each post – and if one counted net attendance, as opposed to bums-on-seats, then it was a very very big wedding.
I think you have every right to feel aggrieved – I have to say the bulk of Ayrshire people I spoke to had no idea you could not marry – but I think there is no difference in joy so that, well, one just disregards the official stupidity and considers it a wedding.
All the same, one day we will get the whole thing fixed, because the situation is both stupid and discriminatory. And FWIW, Meg was if anything even more aggrieved.
BUT – and here is the crunch – it was a great wedding!
That’s because Meg could and would have done it better and we all knew that including her.
Well, yes, of course she could – but it was the utter unfairness that REALLY got to her – though it is true she hates any imperfections in life she could rectify as well. But it WAS a lovely ceremony.